Wednesday, October 1, 2014

“Escaping the People-Pleaser Trap”

 “Escaping the People-Pleaser Trap,” Pastor Rick talked about how allowing the need for approval to dominate you will cause you to miss God’s gifts and purpose for your life. As you go through your week, use the Message Action Plan below to help put the things you’ve learned into practice.
If you missed last weekend’s message, click here to watch it online.
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  1. Reflect on the key verse:
  2. It is a dangerous trap to be concerned with what others think of you, but if you trust the Lord, you are safe.
    Proverbs 29:25 (TEV)
  3. Check the one or two truths that best help you to see the trap of being a people pleaser:
    ❏ It causes me to miss God’s purpose for me
    ❏ It keeps my faith from growing
    ❏ It leads to sin
    ❏ It causes hypocrisy
    ❏ It silences my witness
  4. Check the one or two truths that best help you to escape the trap of being a people pleaser:
  5. ❏ Even God can’t please everyone
    ❏ I don’t need anyone’s approval to be happy
    “I am the One who comforts you! So why are you afraid of mere humans, who wither like the grass and disappear?”Isaiah 51:12 (NLT)
    ❏ What seems so important is only temporary
    The world and everything in it that people desire is passing away; but those who do the will of God will live forever.
    1 John 2:17 (TEV)
    ❏ I only have to please one person
    Paul: “I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.
    Galatians 1:10 (NLT)
    ❏ One day I will give an account of my life
    Yes, each of us will [have to] give a personal account to God.
    Romans 14:12 (NLT)
    ❏ Be who God shaped me to be
    Don’t let the world around you squeeze you into its own mold, but let God re-mold your minds from within, so that you may prove in practice that the plan of God for you is good, meets all his demands and moves towards the goal of true maturity.
    Romans 12:2 (Ph)
  6. What can I do to please God this week?

“How to Keep from Stressing Out,”

In “How to Keep from Stressing Out,” Pastor Rick looked at Paul’s anti-stress recipe in the book of Philippians, and taught five things you can do to personally experience God’s peace — regardless of your circumstances. As you go through your week, reflect on the thoughts in the Message Action Plan below to help put the things you’ve learned into practice.
If you missed last weekend’s message, click here to watch it online.
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Take five minutes and complete this spiritual workout to keep from stressing out:
  1. REFUSE TO WORRY ABOUT ANYTHING!
  2. Don’t worry about anything  . . . . Philippians 4:6 (NLT)
    Unload all your worries on [God] since he is looking after you. 1 Peter 5:7b (JB)
    Minute 1: Tell God what worry you are unloading to him.
  3. PRAY ABOUT EVERYTHING!
  4. Never worry about anything. But in every situation let God know what you need in [your]prayers and requests  . . . . Philippians 4:6 (GW)
    Minute 2: Talk to God about what is most important to you right now.        
  5. THANK GOD IN ALL THINGS!        
  6. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.
    Philippians 4:6b (NLT)
    Minute 3: Thank God for something or someone.
  7. THINK ABOUT GOOD THINGS!
  8. Fill your minds with those things that are true and good and right. Think about things that are pure and beautiful and respected. If anything is excellent or if anything is worthy of honor, think about those things.
    Philippians 4:8 (NCV/NAS)
    Minute 4: Think about just good things for the next 60 seconds.
  9. BE CONTENT WITH ANYTHING!
  10. I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of contentment in every situation, whether I’m well-fed or hungry, when I have more than I need or when I don’t have enough. Philippians 4:11b-12 (NIV/NLT)
    Minute 5: Remind yourself that, I have the strength to face all conditions by the power that Christ gives me. 
    Philippians 4:13 (GNT)
    Try doing this five-minute workout every day this week!

“Winning with the Hand You’re Dealt,”

In his message, “Winning with the Hand You’re Dealt,” Pastor Rick taught us five winning choices that will make the most of what we’ve been given and help us become who God wants us to be. As you go through your week, reflect on the thoughts in the Message Action Plan below to help put the things you’ve learned into practice.
If you missed last weekend’s message, click here to watch it online.
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  1. How do these five factors that influence my identity help me to better understand my life?
    • My Chemistry
    • My Connections
    • My Circumstances
    • My Consciousness
    • My Choices
  2. Which of these five winning choices do you need to start on first? What will you do about it THIS WEEK?

    1. Choose to get healthier.
                             
      “You made my body, Lord; now give me sense to heed your laws.” 
      Psalm 119:73 (LB)
    2. Choose to deepen relationships.
                 
      “Let love be your highest goal!” 1 Corinthians 14:1a (NLT)            
    3. Choose to trust God regardless of my circumstances.

      “[God] knows us far better than we know ourselves . . . That’s why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good.  God knew what he was doing from the very beginning. He decided from the outset to shape the lives of those who love him along the same lines as the life of his Son.”  Romans 8:27-29 (MSG)
    4. Choose what I think about.

      “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you
      think
      .” 
       Romans 12:2a (NLT)
    5. Choose Jesus as my Savior.

      “When someone becomes a Christian he becomes a brand new 
      person inside. He is not the same any more. A new life has begun!”

      2 Corinthians 5:17 (LB)

Sunday, September 7, 2014

MAKING THE MOST OF OPPORTUNITIES

MAKING THE MOST OF OPPORTUNITIES

FALL VISION WEEKEND

Rick Warren

Sept. 6-7, 2014


3 Essentials for a Great Life

1. GIVE MYSELF to a purpose greater than myself.
2. JOIN with great people committed to that purpose.
3. MAKE THE MOST of great opportunities.
"Make the most of every opportunity for doing good . . ."Ephesians 5:16 (NLT)
Success is the management of opportunities.
Successful people sense, see, sift, sort and seize opportunities.

LESSONS

1. I MUST  
say "no" to good & not so good opportunities so I can say "yes" to better or great ones.
SO I CAN SAY YES TO GREAT ONES.
"I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible."1 Corinthians 7:35 (NLT)
Stop adding things to your schedule.
Eliminate less important things to provide more time and space for the best.
Clear out the clutter of your schedule and time.

2. EVERY OPPORTUNITY  
needs to be evaluated and carefully considered.
"Test everything, and keep only what is good."1 Thessalonians 5:21 (NCV)
Even if an opportunity is from God it needs to be evaluated.

5 QUESTIONS
• WHAT DO I NEED  
to know?  And who knows it?
"It is stupid to decide before knowing the facts!"Proverbs 18:13 (LB)
"Get all the advice you can, and you'll succeed; without it you will fail."Proverbs 15:22 (TEV)
Just because you like something, doesn't mean you should get into it... talk to people who know more about the subject.

• WHAT MIGHT BE  
the unintended consequences?
"A prudent man foresees the difficulties ahead and prepares for them; a fool goes blindly on and suffers the consequences."Proverbs 22:3 (LB)
There is a down side to every upside.  There are always pros and cons. Wise people figure things out before they make a final decision.

Proverbs 14:16 - The wise are cautious.
Expect the best, but plan for the worst.
Scenario planning =

"If it is the Lord's will... we will do this..."

Make plans and expect God to direct you. Realize ultimately God is in control.
Nothing turns out exactly as you think it will or works perfectly since this is a fallen world and we are imperfect.

Are you willing to live with the consequences?

• WHAT'S  
my motivation?
"Never let selfishness or pride be your guide when you do things."Philippians 2:3 (NCV)
God want to check our intent and motives in our actions.

The difference between heroes and celebrities.  Heroes make sacrifices for the benefit of others.
Celebrities are famous and rich for their personal gain and benefit of themself.
Jesus: "If you want to be my follower, you must put aside your selfish ambition, shoulder your cross, and then follow me."Matthew 16:24 (NLT)
Can you put aside your selfish ambition to follow God's purpose and calling for you?

• DOES THIS FIT  
my purpose and calling?
Jesus: "Anyone who lets himself be distracted from the work I plan for him is not fit for the Kingdom of God."Luke 9:62 (LB)
Everybody is called by God to do something with your life.
It is not the same thing for everybody.
Discover your calling.  See Purpose Driven Life.
A need is not a calling.

• IS THIS THE BEST USE  
of my time and energy?  Do what matters most.
"Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial, and not everything is constructive."1 Corinthians 10:23 (NIV)
3. OPPORTUNITIES COME  
when I least expect them.
Jesus: "You must be ready all the time, for I will come when least expected."Matthew 24:44 (NLT)
4. I MUST STAY  
flexible to be ready and  abide in Jesus.
"Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit."Galatians 5:25 (NIV)
"Make hay while the sun shines."  Work while you can. Opportunities are limited.Proverbs 10:5 (Mes)
Opportunities are often disguised as problems.
CAUSES OF MISSED OPPORTUNITIES

•  
Inflexibility - unwillingness to change.  
"It is pleasant to see our plans develop. That is why fools refuse to give them up even when they are wrong!"Proverbs13:19 (LB)
Plan and pray - leave your plans in God's hands.  Let Him bring it to pass.  Things change constantly. God is ultimately in control of everything.

•  
Busyness.  We miss opportunities when we make excuses and pass.
"Jesus said 'Come follow me' but the man said, 'Lord, let me first' . . ."You really can't say: "LORD" + "ME First"  - Then Jesus in not "Lord" when you put yourself first.
Luke 9:57-10:2
•  
Lack of faith. Fear. Unwilling to take risks. If you want to walk on water, you must get out of the boat.
"According to your faith will it be done to you."Matthew 9:29 (NIV)

5. EVERY OPPORTUNITY  
will have opposition. Critics, doubters etc.
"There is a WIDE-OPEN DOOR for a great work here, and many people are responding! But there are also many who oppose me."
Opportunity + Opposition = God's will.1 Corinthians 16:9 (NLT)
Let the size of your God, determine the size of your goals.
GREAT OPPORTUNITIES IN 2015

Rwanda's president read "Purpose Driven Life" and asked to bring the Peace Plan and create a Purpose Driven Nation.  Churches there are growing and doing what the government was unable and unequipped to do. This nation has prospered and become the safest nation in the continent of Africa in 5 years. Genocide 1 million orphans in a nation of 10 million . The churches set the goal to eliminate orphanages by assimilating orphans into families. 

• The opportunity to impact an entire continent! 54 nation All-Africa Continental Congress Aug.11-14 
Top leaders from all African Nations will be trained in Rwanda on how to become a "purpose driven" nation. Africa is bigger than USA, China, Europe, India, put together.  40% of people will live in Africa.  Birth rate is at zero in many other nations while Africa is exploding with growth, 50% of the birth rate is there.  There are more Christians in Africa than in the USA. Muslims are influencing Africans too, we must reach them with the love of Christ.

• "Adventures in Faith!" A calendar of faith-stretching events, training, and opportunities in 2015 during our 35th year as a church family and our 30th year of Purpose Driven training.

6. GREAT OPPORTUNITIES BRING  
responsibility and accountability.
"To whom much is given, much will be required, and to whom much more is given, even more will be expected from them."Luke 12:48 
"The harvest is past, the summer has ended, and we are not saved."Jeremiah 8:20
God brought you here to make a difference.
God uses people who make the choice to be great.
Greatness does not happen by accident.  It happens by the choices you make and determination.

God did not give us opportunities to squander.
The rest of your life can be the best of your life.

Adventures in faith - look to the future of what God can do in you.
Your life will change and so will the world.

God blessed you abundantly and will ask you on judgment day what did you do with it?
The most costly opportunity that can't be missed is our Salvation through Jesus Christ.
Say "Yes!" to Jesus, "Use me!"



Tuesday, August 5, 2014

GOD BLESSES A HEART OF INTEGRITY

GOD BLESSES A HEART OF INTEGRITY
The Keys to a Blessed Life (8 Beatitudes) 
Rick Warren
July 12-13, 2014

“Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7b (NIV)
God doesn't care about your appearance, achievements, accomplishments or acquistions or your image.
He cares about your soul, the real YOU!

“God blesses those whose hearts are pure, for they will see God.” 
Matthew 5:8 (NLT)
God is more interested in your attitude than your action. 

 INTEGRITY:
BLESSINGS BROUGHT BY INTEGRITY
None of these great men were perfect: David, Noah, Moses, Abraham, Peter, etc.
But they had integrity and sought after God.

Integrity = Wholeness
Life is not compartmentalized, it is integrated not segregated.   
People who compartmentalize or segregate their life they do not have integrity: Secret life, Family Life, Career Life, etc. 

Integrity = Authenticity
Not fake, you are real always and in all ways with everybody.
Wearing masks is being 2 faced/hypocrite
Integrity is what you are and do when nobody is looking.

Integrity = Un-mixed motivation
Pure in heart, no ulterior motives.
Integrity is who you really are at your core.

“People with integrity have a firm footing, but those who follow 
crooked paths will slip and fall.” Proverbs 10:9 (NLT)

“The integrity of the honest keeps them on track.” 
Proverbs 11:3 (Mes)

Blessings of integrity:

  • Confidence
  • Personal stability & security
  • People enjoy being around you
  • Trustworthy
  • Can relax
  • Keeps you on track
  • Integrity is a lasting legacy of blessings to future generations
  • Eternal rewards
  • Forgiven

“A righteous person lives on the basis of his integrity. Blessed 
are his children after he is gone.” Proverbs 20:7 (GW)

“If you pray to God and seek the favor of the Almighty, if you are 
pure and live with complete integrity, God will rise up and restore 
your happy home. And though you started with little, you will end
with much.” Job 8:5-7 (NLT)

 [God will say] “Well done! You are a good and trusted servant!
Because you were faithful with small things, I’ll now put you in 
charge of much greater things. Come and share your M aster’s 
happiness!” Matthew25:21 (NCV)

“Lord, who may stay in your sanctuary and live on your holy 
mountain? The one who WALKS WITH INTEGRITY . . . he speaks 
the truth from his heart. He refuses to slander others with his 
tongue, won’t listen to gossip, and will not cast a slur on his 
fellowman . . . [instead] he honors those who fear the Lord, and 
keeps his promises even when it hurts. He lends his money freely
without charging interest and cannot be bribed by money
Whoever does these things will never be shaken!” 
Psalm 15:1-5 (NIV/GW/TEV)

Treat every area of your life with the same intensity of excellence:
Your marriage
Your family
Your friends
Your career
Your community
Your church

SOME WAYS TO DEVELOP INTEGRITY

By Keeping Your Promises. Keep your word, Be reliable.
“People who promise things they never give are like clouds and 
wind that bring no rain.” Proverbs 25:14 (TEV)

Broken promises are the number one cause of bitterness in children.

Insecurity comes from a lack of integrity.

By Paying Your Debts. Financial Integrity. Don't live beyond your means. Don't defraud others or cheat on your taxes.

“The wicked man borrows and never pays back . . .”
Psalm 37:21 (TEV)

“. . . the authorities are working for God . . . Pay what you owe them; 
pay your personal and property taxes . . .”
Romans 13:6-7 (TEV)

By refusing to gossip.   Keep things confidential.

“A gossip can’t be trusted with a secret, but someone of integrity 
won’t violate a confidence.” Proverbs 11:13 (Mes)

Real friends walk in your life when others walk out.
They don't rub it in, they help rub it out.

By faithfully tithing. Trust God with your finances and putting Him first.
Wherever you put your money first, shows what is important to you.

“Is it right for a person to cheat God? Of course not! Yet you are 
robbing me, says the Lord. ‘How?’ you ask. By withholding your 
full tithe and offerings. . . Bring to me the full amount of your tithe 
to my House . . . Put me to the test and you’ll see that I will open 
the windows of heaven and pour out so much blessing on you 
that you won’t have enough room to receive it all!” 
Malachi 3:8-10 (TEV)  This is a test with a promise.

By doing your best at work.
“Work hard and cheerfully at whatever you do, as though you 
were working for the Lord rather than for people.”
Colossians 3:23 (NLT)

"A lazy employee is as destructive as a saboteur."
Proverbs 18:9

Ephesians 6:6 , Colossians 3:22-23
It is God's will that you work hard with gladness as unto the Lord. He sees everything.
Don't just do the minimum, do your best. 

By being real and authentic and genuine with others.

“We refuse to wear masks and play games. We don’t maneuver 
and manipulate behind the scenes. And we don’t twist God’s 
Word to suit ourselves. Rather, we keep everything we do and 
say out in the open . . .” 2 Corinthians4:2 (Mes)

Care more about what God thinks than what others think. Stay in His Word!

“How can I keep my way pure? By living according to your Word.”
Psalm 119:9 (NIV)

The first step is: Ask God to show you areas you need to clean up.
Admit: "Confession of bad works, is the beginning of good works." Saint Augustine

The Titanic Myth:
It was supposed to be the first unsinkable ship because it was the first compartmentalized segmented hull.
However a hole can sink you and take you down no matter what.
Excuses: "It's my life, I can handle it, it is none of your business, everybody else is doing it, what they don't know won't hurt them, etc."
Sin will always effect others and will find you out.

This is why we need a Savior and grace and forgiveness.
None of us are perfect and always does what is right.
We have all failed and sinned.
You will never be sinless... but you can sin less.
It is a choice of integrity!
I don't always do the right thing... but I want to do my best... offer it as prayer to God.




Sunday, August 3, 2014

HOW TO RECONCILE A RELATIONSHIP

HOW TO RECONCILE A RELATIONSHIP
The Keys to a Blessed Life (8 Beatitudes) – Part 7
Rick Warren
July 26-27, 2014

Conflict resolution is an important life skill to learn and needs to be taught.

How to restore a broken relationship

 “God blesses those who are peacemakers, for they will be called 
the children of God.” Matthew 5:9 (NLT)

The characteristic of a true believer is being a "peace maker" not avoiding or appeasing others that is cowardliness or enabling.

Currently we have 5 major world wars occurring, without including conflicts and battles interpersonal, political, religious, etc., etc., etc. 

It blocks my relationship with God.
I can't be close to God if I have conflict with others in my life.
You can't love God whom you can't see, if you can't love those whom you can see.
If you claim you love God and hate others - you are a liar.

It blocks my prayers.
My prayers won't be heard or answered.
God is love, and He wants us to love and learn to love.
If you are in conflict - you are not loving.
Husbands treat wives with respect and consideration so nothing hinders your prayers.

It blocks my happiness.
If relationships stink, life stinks.
If your marriage isn't working, or out of harmony with your family - life is not happy.

MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT PEACEMAKING DAMAGE CAUSED BY UNRESOLVED CONFLICT
Those who are peace makers will reap a harvest of goodness by planting seeds of peace.
It is a law of the universe.
 Sowing and reaping - you plant one seed, it will multiply back to you. 

“Those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a
harvest of goodness.” James 3:18 (NLT)

HOW TO BE A PEACEMAKER

 1. You make the first move... take the initiative to make peace.
It is more important than worship or going to church.
“If you’re standing before the altar in the Temple, giving an
offering to God, and you suddenly remember someone has
something against you, leave your offering there beside the altar.
Go at once and first be reconciled to that person. Then come and
offer your gift to God.” Matthew 5:23-24 (NLT)

Time does not heal anything... things get worse as you allow it to fester and grow more bitter the more you procrastinate.  The only way to resolve conflict is to face it.

What causes us to postpone?  Fear of conflict.
We become withdrawn and detached due to fear of rejection.
The more insecure you are in a relationship the more demanding, defensive and distant you become.
Where do you find the courage to make the first move?  To deal with that person?
The Holy Spirit of God's love.  Get full of God, and He will help you overcome.
We never change until the love exceeds our fear and pain.

2. Ask God for wisdom.
“If you want to know what God wants you to do, ask Him, and He
will gladly tell you . . .” James 1:5 (LB)

Ask God for help with the timing, approach, and what to say.
Think of who you have a strained relationship with and pray for them.

Confess your faults first... start with how you were wrong.
If I am full of myself, I am ultra sensitive.
If I am full of the Holy Spirit, I am full of peace and love, so conflict won't bother me.

3.When I am at peace with God inside, what happens outside doesn't upset me. 
“What causes fights and quarrels among you? They are caused by
selfish desires that are continually at war inside you?” James 4:1

There is no such thing as incompatible.... we are all different and we can choose to get along and choose to love or not.  To have a successful marriage/relationship "grow up!"  Immaturity causes relationships to die.
Flexibility and willingness to change makes relationships successful otherwise they will fail.

The greatest the differences you have the greatest potential for growth.
You can learn from anybody if you are willing to be humble, unselfish, open minded, flexible.

It is always more rewarding to resolve conflict than dissolve a relationship. 
Human nature is self centered and stubborn.  Good relationships require we think less about ourself and more about others.

Humble people don't get feelings hurt easily.
Prideful people are ultra sensitive and moody.

“Pride only leads to arguments . . .” Proverbs 13:10 (NCV)
“Why do you notice the little piece of dust in your friend’s eye,
but you don’t notice the big piece of wood in your own eye? . . . First,
take the wood out of your own eye. Then you will see clearly to
take the dust out of your friend’s eye.” Matthew 7:3,5 (NCV)

Break the ice of conflict :
"I am sorry, I was only thinking of myself....." ideal phrase to memorize and recite repeatedly. 
Come to resolve conflict humbly and begin with yourself. 

Look for your own blind spots.
Listen to their hurt and perspective.
Listen to the emotion behind the words.
See what they need.
We argue over emotions and feelings instead of ideas.
Somebody feels abused, slighted, causes hurts more than ideas.

Hurt people hurt people.

The people who need love the most, deserve it the least. 
The most obnoxious difficult, unloving, unloveable people are the hardest to love, but need it the most.
You need to see why they 
When people feel de-valued, unappreciated, neglected... they hurt.
Start with what they need.

4.Conflict resolution means you need to focus.
 You are more like Jesus when you focus on somebody else instead of yourself. 
Seek to understand, before seeking to be understood. 
See their circumstance, their temperament, their background.
You will be more patient when you are understanding and see where they are coming from and see their hurts and pain and what they have been through. 

“. . . be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.”
James 1:19 (NLT)

If you listen and watch your words you will control your anger.
When you are quick to anger, you are not watching your words or listening.
Always listen first before speaking!
Then people feel validated when you listen.
Eye contact and paying attention is very loving.

“Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to
the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of
Christ Jesus.” Philippians 2:4-5 (NIV)
“. . . we must bear the ‘burden’ of being considerate of the doubts and
fears of others . . .” Romans 15:2 (LB)

Look beyond behavior towards the person's fears and doubts.
The problem is our fears are rational and normal and other's fears are irrational and abnormal.
All fears are irrational!
FEAR - False Evidence Appearing Real
Irrational - Rational Lies

5. Speak the truth tactfully with kindness and love.
Being brutally honest is rude and selfish.  Telling it like it is... is being a jerk.
If you say it offensively it will be received defensively.
They will remember the emotion more than the words or topic.
The moment you start yelling- the other person will stop listening and you have lost the argument.
you are never persuasive when you are abrasive.
you never get your point across when you are cross.
Never use the truth as a club... wrap it in love.
Truth with love is received. Truth without love is resisted.

“Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise
brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18 (NIV)
Foolish words hurt.
Wise words heal.
It is all in the way you say it.

Religious fanatics spiritually vomit on everybody to feel better about themselves, but everybody else is repulsed by it.

“Do not use harmful words, but only helpful words, the kind that
build up and provide what is needed . . .” Ephesians 4:29 (TEV)

2 imperfect people can't have a perfect relationship.
Establish ground rules so you do not destroy yourselves or each other.
Learn the triggers to avoid.  Fight fair.
Don't threat divorce. Close the escape hatch and said it is not an option.

During the cold war from 1950's to 1989.  The leaders agreed that WMDs weapons of mass destruction were off limits. Atomic bombs were banned. You need to ban the WMDs from your marriage. Make a list of the harmful and hurtful words that are banned.

6. Fix the problem not the blame. 
 Attack the issue, not the blame. 
BLAME is spelled: "Be lame"
As long as you attack each other, you are not attacking the issues to be resolved.
Blame, shame game is a waste of time.

“You must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, 
malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.” 
Colossians 3:8 (NIV) 7.

Labeling, belittling, analyzing, slandering, insulting, gossip, etc.

Focus on reconciliation not resolution.
Re-establish the relationship.
Bury the hatchet.
Do not hold on to the hurt.
Resolution on everything is not always possible. You can agree to disagree.
You can have unity without uniformity.
You can walk hand in hand without seeing eye to eye on things.
Restore the relationship and the issue will appear insignificant.

Reconciliation = reestablish the relationship
Resolution = resolve every issue

Our world is filled with constant conflict and stress.
Broken lives, hearts, economy, etc.
Commit to become a bridge builder, not a wall builder.
Look for ways to bring people together instead of tearing them apart.
This is your ministry to be a peace maker, restoring relationships and reconciliation.

“God has restored our relationship with him through Christ, and has
given us this ministry of restoring relationships. God was in Christ
restoring his relationship with humanity.
He didn’t hold people’s faults against them, and he has given us this message of restored
relationships to tell others. We are Christ’s representatives . . .
We beg you on behalf of Christ to become reunited with God.”
2 Corinthians 5:18-20 (GW)


Monday, July 21, 2014

Pre-meditated Mercy

YOUR MINISTRY OF MERCY
The Keys to a Blessed Life (8 Beatitudes) – Part 5
Rick Warren
June 7-8, 2014

To serve is to minister... anytime you help somebody in Jesus name.
God wants you to be a provider or agent of mercy in the world. 

“God blesses those who are merciful, for they will be shown mercy.”
Matthew 5:7

What you give, you will get.  This is the key to a blessed life.

Forgiving people who do not deserve it.
Helping those who can't help themselves.
There are 7 ways you can transform your relationships through being merciful.

WHY BE MERCIFUL TO OTHERS?

1. Since God has shown me mercy. (Eph. 2:4-5)
“Shouldn’t you have mercy on others, just as I had mercy on you?”
Matthew18:33 (NLT)
God wants us to pass mercy on.

2. God commands me to be merciful.
God has told us to do what is right, love mercy, and be humble and fellowship with God. (Micah 6:8)
“I don’t want your sacrifices! I want you to be merciful!”
Hosea 6:6 It is more important than worship.

3.Because I will need more mercy in the future.
“You must show mercy to others, or God won’t show mercy to you
. . . But the person who shows mercy can stand without fear at the
judgment.” James 2:13 (NCV)

4. Showing mercy brings happiness.  It is the source of happiness and blessings.
“If you want to be happy, be kind to those in need; it is a sin to
despise anyone!” Proverbs 14:21 (TEV)
“A merciful person helps himself, but a cruel person hurts himself.”
Proverbs 11:17 (GW)
Your own soul is nourished by being merciful.

HOW DO I BE MERCIFUL? 

1.Be patient with people's quirks and irritating or annoying behavior.
“Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults
because of your love.” Ephesians 4:2 (LB)
 “The wisdom that comes from heaven is pure, peace loving, gentle 
at all times, and willing to yield to others. Wisdom is full of mercy...” 
James 3:17 (NLT)
Refuse to become angry or upset by people's behavior... that is showing mercy.

Learn to show mercy at home first!

2.Help anybody who is hurting. Care to be aware.
“Whenever you possibly can, do good to those who need it.”
Proverbs 3:27 (TEV)
“[When you do] acts of mercy, show mercy with cheerfulness.”
Romans 12:8
God wants you to watch your attitude.

3. Be kind and forgiving.
“Don’t get bitter or angry or use harsh words that hurt each other.
Don’t yell at one another or curse or ever be rude. Instead, be kind 
and merciful, and forgive others, just as God forgave you
because of Christ.” Ephesians 4:31-32 (CEV)

Don't be harsh, ridicule or put down others - if you do you are being unmerciful.

4. Do good to those who hurt me.
Give people what they need, not what they deserve.
“Love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without
expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and
you will be children of the Most High, because God is kind to the
ungrateful and wicked. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.”
Luke 6:35-36 (NIV)
Hurt people, hurt people.  
People you want to love the least, need love the most!
They need your mercy.
Rise above the hurt by forgiving and releasing it.

President Abe Lincoln spoke to a crowd about reconstruction after the war in Washington DC from the balcony of the White House.  The crowd wanted to hang the rebels. Lincoln's 11 years old son, Tad  said "Hang onto them."  


5. Be kind to those who offend me.
You don't get across your point by being cross.  
Win them to Christ by kindness, not by winning the argument. 

(Paul) “Even though I was once a blasphemer and a persecutor and a
violent man, I was shown mercy because I acted in ignorance and
unbelief . . . I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners,
Jesus might display his unlimited patience as an example for others
who’d believe on him and receive eternal life.” 1 Timothy 1:13,16

“Show mercy to those who have doubts. Save others by snatching
them from the fire. Show mercy to them, while being careful that you
aren’t contaminated by their sins.” Jude 1:22-23 (GW/NLT)

Avoid sin and love everyone!

6. Build bridges of love to the unpopular.
Pre-meditated mercy: intentionally building friendships with people who don't have friends, outcasts, misfits, or are different than you.
“Matthew invited Jesus and his disciples to be his dinner guests,
along with his fellow tax collectors and many other notorious
sinners. The Pharisees were indignant. ‘Why does your teacher eat
with such scum?’ they asked his disciples. When he heard this,
Jesus replied, ‘Healthy people don’t need a doctor—sick people do.
Go learn the meaning of the Scripture, “I want you to be merciful; I
don’t want your sacrifices!” For I have come to call sinners, not
those who think they are already good enough.’”
Matthew 9:10-13 (NLT)


7. Value relationships over rules.
Put people's needs before policies.
Choose love over law.
Love fulfills the law.

Error on the side of grace and love and kindness.  Jesus gave the greatest example ever of going overboard on mercy  by dying on the cross and being tortured for us.  
He said, "Father forgive them!"
“Another time Jesus was walking through some grain fields on the
Sabbath. His disciples were hungry, so they began to pick some
grain and eat it. Some Pharisees saw this and protested, ‘Your
disciples are breaking God’s law by harvesting grain on the
Sabbath!’ But Jesus said, ‘Haven’t you ever read what King David
did when he and his soldiers were hungry? He went into the house of
God, and they ate the holy bread reserved for the priests? . . . You
would not have judged these innocent men if you knew the real
meaning of the Scripture, “I want you to be merciful. I don’t want
your sacrifices!” For I am the Lord of the Sabbath!’”
Matthew 12:1-8 (NLT)

Stop being petty.  
When you are criticizing others remind yourself it is a warning signal that there is probably a log in your eye.

Think of people who fit each of these 7 areas that you need to reach out to this week and show radical pre-meditated acts of mercy!

Monday, March 10, 2014

FACING GIANTS IN LIFE & WORK 50 Days of Transformation – Part 7

FACING GIANTS IN LIFE & WORK

50 Days of Transformation – Part 7 (Your Career)

Malcolm Gladwell & Rick Warren

March 8-9, 2014


Your ability to dream is one of the greatest gifts God has given to you.
Your ability to imagine, create, perceive and dream of the future is an amazing ability.
You are most like your Creator when you are creative!
Every great achievement in life began as a dream.
Everything starts with an idea which morphs into a vision, dream and plans.
Nothing happens til somebody starts dreaming.
You gotta have a dream for your life!
If you don't have a dream, you just drifting...
You're not really fully alive & living, you are just existing, you are letting life happen to you.
Everybody needs a dream for their life.
Help others figure out God's dream for their lives and then encourage them to pursue that dream.


Napolean said, "Imagination rules the world."

Albert Einstein said, "Imagination is more important than knowledge!"


For every 10 people who dream, only one person will actually pursue it. 


The others get stuck, procrastinate, get discouraged, give up, because of problems that seem to be in the pathway of that dream. They appear like giants.

1 SAMUEL 17:1-52
“Now the Philistines had gathered their forces for war. . . They occupied one hill and the Israelites another, with the valley between them. A champion named Goliath, from Gath, came out of the Philistine camp. He was a giant of a man, over nine feet tall, wearing a huge bronze helmet, and a coat of bronze armor that weighed over 125 pounds. He also wore bronze leggings, and slung a huge bronze javelin over his back. The iron spearhead alone weighed 15 pounds, and a solider with a large shield always walked in front of Goliath.”1 Samuel 17:1-7
I. LESSONS FROM DAVID FACING GOLIATH
This war was centered in Palestine 3,000 years ago in the heart of the Biblical
world. The geographic location is very strategic.  The most historic cities are in the mt. areas:
Jerusalem, Bethlehem, Hebron
Coastal Plain - Televiv
Valleys - Sheffela is the most beautiful areas of Israel full of vineyards, forests.
This meeting of war is in the valley.  The Philistines send out their giant, Goliath to end the grid lock of war.   King Saul has no courageous soldiers who will volunteer to fight.  Young David declines King Saul's armor.  He tells the giant, "I come to you in the name of the Lord!"
Armies consisted of:
Chariots - Horse carriages
Infantry -Foot soldiers, armor,
Artillery - Bows, arrows, slings of rocks

Typical rotation is 6-7 times per second. Rock will travel 35 meters per second.
The rock will travel at 35 meters per second, if Goliath is 100 ft. away from David, it will arrive at his head in less than one second.  The rock David used was probably barium sulfate, it would have stopping power of a 45 caliber hand gun. Experienced slingers can hit birds in flight.
Goliath is heavy infantry.  Slingers were used to devastate infantry.

Goliath said, "Come to me" expecting hand to hand combat.
David changes the rules, and brings a sling to a sword fight.... he has superior technology and the Lord in his heart.  He has a greater advantage.

We misunderstand Goliath.  He is not the indomitable warrior as reputed.  He is led to the valley of Ela by the hand.  He moves slowly.  He keeps saying, "Come to me that I might ... (threatening)"
Endocrinologists focused on the medical condition of Goliath - he has acromeglia.  He probably has a tumor on his pituitary gland to cause tremendous growth - when the average man was 5 feet tall.
The tumor grows so large it commonly puts pressure on the optic nerve and causes vision problems.  He probably can't see well, moves slowly to prevent falling, that is why he tells David to come to him.

What the Israelites saw was an intimidating giant.  But the source of his strength was actually weaknesses.  Don't judge a book by it's cover.  Don't look on outward appearances to judge strengths.  What really matters is what is inside.  Giants are not what they always appear to be.

You may have to face giants in your life.
Giants in your mind to cause fears and prevent you from going for your dreams
Giants in your health, finances, relationships, etc.

David had to face giants and overcome them.
Giants are dream busters.
Giants prevent you from going after what you want to do in your life.

God instructed Samuel to find the next king of Israel and anoint him.  He goes to Bethlehem and meets Jesse's 8 sons.  Samuel choose the last and least of Jesse's sons, David.  The least became the greatest - Greatest King of Israel.  The next day, nothing happened.

II.  OTHER ‘GIANTS’ DAVID HAD TO FACE
1. DELAY:
No dream is fulfilled instantly.  There is a waiting period.
“Now David was the youngest of Jesse’s eight sons. . . His three older brothers enlisted in Saul’s army. . . but David was held back to care for the sheep in Bethlehem.”
Somebody will hold you back.  Sometimes the people who hold you 
back are those who love you the most.  In this case it was David's own Dad, Jesse. 
vs.12-1
2. DISCOURAGEMENT: When everybody around you doesn't believe it can happen, because they are scared and doubtful, feel hopeless and paralyzed and gives up.  Negativity spins out of control and contaminates everyone else.  They are listening to the wrong voice. Conventional wisdom is often wrong, Sometimes solutions come from an outsider.


















































































































"Each day Goliath would stand and shout at the ranks of Israel’s army, ‘Why do you come out here and line up for battle?. . . Choose one man to fight me. If he’s able to kill me, we will become your subjects; but if I kill him, you’ll become our subjects and serve us.’ Day after day Goliath taunted them saying ‘This day I defy the ranks of Israel!’ When Saul and the Israelites heard this, everyone was deeply shaken and paralyzed with fear.”vs. 8-11 
God has a plan for your life, and so do other people. Sometimes that happens in your life and it becomes a giant problem in your life.

For forty days, twice a day, morning and evening, the Philistine giant loudly berated the Israelite army.” Who are you listening to that is negative?  Who says it is doom and gloom.? Negativity rubs off on you.  Don't hang out negative toxic people. vs. 16 
“As David talked with his brothers on the front line, he saw Goliath start shouting his usual threats to Israel’s army. When the army heard Goliath, they all ran away in terror.”vs. 23-24 
3. DISAPPROVAL:
Critics, naysayers, antagonists will question your motives. 
If you worry about the disapproval of others you will never fulfill your dream of 
what God wants you to be and do. Others will want you to do it "their way!" 
David's own brother gives him a hard time: Sibling rivalry
“David asked, ‘What’s the reward for killing this Philistine and ending this disgraceful abuse?’. . . When David’s older brother heard this he burned with anger at David and said ‘Why are YOU even here anyway? Why aren’t you taking care of your scrawny little flock of sheep? You cocky little brat. I know how conceited you are!’ ‘Now what have I done?’ said David. ‘Can’t I even ask a question?’
vs. 26-29
 
Sometimes family doesn't want you to succeed, because of jealousy, envy. None of Jesus' siblings believed He was God's son until after the resurrection. James, his brother, wrote the book of James and became the head of the church in Jerusalem.  He humbly writes of himself, "the servant of Jesus". Let the size of your God determine the size of your goal.  Big GOD, Dream BIG!






People misjudge and malign you when you are confident in what God can do through you.
The reward for slaying the giant was: Wealth,  Marry the King's daugther, Tax exemption for life!















































































































4. DOUBTWhen others doubt your abilities, move against your doubt, trust God.
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“‘Don’t worry about a thing,’ David told the King, ‘I'll fight this Philistine!’ ‘Don't be ridiculous!’ Saul replied. ‘There’s no way YOU can go against this Philistine! You’re only a boy, and he’s been a professional warrior all his life!’” vs. 32-33 

HOW TO DEFEAT GIANTS THAT KEEP YOU FROM YOUR BEST

1.
Remember how God has helped me in the past. That gives me confidence when I recall
His faithfulness to me in little things - surely he will help me in the big things. 
“In protecting my sheep, I’ve killed both a lion and a bear. . . The Lord who delivered me from the teeth of that lion, and the claws of that bear, He will surely now deliver me from this Philistine too!”vs. 36-37
2.
Use the tools God has provided to me now. Don't wait to get started. 
Do the best I can with what I have for Jesus Christ today. Don't wait for perfect
conditions or rely on others to do it their way.  Do it the way God wired and wants you to do it.
You are not a clone or copy cat. You are unique.
David rejected the King's (man's might) provisions, he relied upon what God provided to him: “Then Saul dressed David in his own armor... But David said, ‘I cannot go out in these, because I’m not used to them.’ So he took them off . . . Instead he chose 5 smooth stones for his sling.”vs. 38-40 
3.
Ignore the dream busters. 
Nobody encouraged David.  He was alone with God: “ . . . When others were speaking against him, David encouraged himself in the Lord.”1 Samuel 30:6

4.
Expect God to help me for His glory.
“David shouted to Goliath ‘You come at me with sword, spear, and javelin, but I come to you in the name of the Lord Almighty!...Today the Lord will conquer you. . . and the whole world will know that there is a God! And everyone will know that the Lord doesn’t need weapons to rescue his people. It is his battle, not ours. The Lord will give you to us!’”vs. 45-47
There is almost nothing God won't do for a person who has this kind of faith.
The reason you are tired is because you are trying to fight the battle instead of relying upon God.
God doesn't respond to griping, complaining, whining, worrying about your situation.
God responds to faith.
Positive thinking is better than negative thinking.  However positive thinking will never solve problems. We need God to help us.  We need faith in Him.

Dear God,
I want to have your dreams for my life.
Be who You want me to be.
Accomplish my purpose for my life.
When I am afraid by doubts, discouragement, disapprovals, delays, help me to remember how You have helped me in the past and You will do it again as I trust You.
Help me not to wait, but to do what I can now with what  I have.
Teach me how to encourage myself in You.
I expect Your help. 
The battle is Yours.
Accomplish your glory in me. 
Bring honor to Yourself.
Work in my life.

In Jesus, our Lord's name.
Amen!